One of my favorite movie scenes is the opening of The Big Chill. Friends gather at a small town church for the funeral service of a  friend who died of a drug overdose. Everyone feels sad, and guilty, that they did not maintain closer contact with the deceased. As the service ends the minister announces a female friend will play one of the deceased’s favorite inspirational songs. The lady sits at the organ and plays the opening melody of the Stone’s song You Can’t Always Get What You Want, and all the friends laugh and smile.

The connection with my spiritual path are the lines, “But if you try sometime, you find, you get what you need.” (Oh, baby!) This has been my experience. I pursue something thinking it is what I want, don’t get it, but get something else that I later decide I need. Most recently this was what happened with Ho’oponopono which I will refer to, to continue the drug theme and for brevity sake, as “H”.

I have been meditating, at different levels of intensity, for many years. While the benefits of meditation were wonderful, I found that, during my day, I would easily slip into mundane-world-thinking. Take, for example, my driving. Decades of driving an hour to and from work had diminished the levels of my patience. When someone cut me off I would say, “Whatcha-do-that-for-you idiot?” Actually, I was not so polite. So while meditating helped me start and end the day in love and harmony, there were, excuse the pun, road bumps along the way. In short, I needed a good dose of “H”.

I have found that using “H” upon awakening in the morning is a wonderful way to start the day. I do my meditation too, and that also provides a great start. But now when I experience frustration, I say, “What the …” and stop to remember that it is a time for a good dose of “H”. So I realize that, while the negative driving skills exist within the other driver’s bad habits, the feeling of negativity resides inside of me. So I take “H” and it gets rid of my frustration right away. I say, “I’m sorry” (for having bad feelings inside), “Please forgive me” (to my inner self), “I love you” (inner self), and “Thank you” (for removing the negativity).

I can tell you from personal experience that “H” is definitely addicting. Perhaps it is because it is so simple to do, so inexpensive. Perhaps it is because I AM forming a habit using it. But, best of all, it is because “H” makes me feel good and helps me eliminate stress from my life. I find myself walking around in a beautiful place, myself, that is free from stress and strain. Do yourself a favor. Use “H” as often as you can. It will change your life in wonderful ways!  “You can’t always get what you want. But if you try sometime, you just might find, you get what you need.”